"Today's post comes from Natalie over at Natalie Vallejo. Thank you Natalie for sharing your tips with us and thank you to your husband and your family for your service and sacrifice!" - Brittany
As I'm a new military wife, I find that being lonely has to be the top feeling that I get to know everytime I wake up and my husband isn't next to me. As I'm a Coast guard wife, my husband is put on a small boat station so, he works like a firefighter.
There are weeks where I have him for 5 days and there are some I only see him for 2. The worst part is, he doesn’t get to sleep at home any night he's on duty. Our relationship is based off of Skype and texts at most. When I do have him home.. I treasure him.
"When I do have him home.. I treasure him."
My son is 1 ½ and is now noticing that “Poppa” isn’t home all the time and he'll sit and cry for hours asking for him. It pains me to see him sit by the door at times and sob till he falls asleep.
When I say I'm combating loneliness alone, I'm bluffing. I’m making this journey with my son and I can’t have him bawling everyday! Right?!
This is where I use POSITIVITY as my number one resource. We go to parks, we play out in the pool and we also walk our two furbabies. I recently befriended amazing women in my community with children to make it feel like the days are not dragging!
Now, please understand.. It's not all peaches and cream for myself. I'll show my child that there's nothing to whimper about but when my door is shut.. I cry. I cry because I’m missing someone that's a part of my everyday activities.
My husband is a very hands on father and someone who helps in my house more than I can ever ask. When he’s away, my house would literally fall apart in the beginning. My dishes piled up. I'd go days without dressing up for the day, hair up in the messiest bun, lying on my couch.
I wasn’t really sure how to handle it. I know there are women out there who go months and even years without their soulmates and may I say, I wish to be half the woman you are.
As usual, my life must continue because I do have a toddler who is very busy and likes to do something other than watch tv all day! I've combated my loneliness by keeping myself completely productive through the day so it ends more rapidly.
"Everyone struggles with loneliness at some point [but] there is someone who is closer than a brother and is always with you - Jesus Christ[.]"
I go out more, I shop when there's something to shop for, and I spend most of the day teaching my child new things. I've recently taught him to do ASL which has helped him communicate with us a lot more.
I must say that being a military wife has taught me responsibility and how to be able to handle being alone most of the time, which makes me proud. I never thought that I would be the woman I am today because of how I previously was.
Here I leave you with 5 ways to combat loneliness and how it has helped me!
Everyone struggles with loneliness at some point. Whether you're going through something hard that you don't think anyone else understands or you're facing a change in life where you just feel alone, God's Word provides hope and strength. There is someone who is closer than a brother and is always with you - Jesus Christ is our Friend and Comforter!
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Hi there! My name is Brittany...helpmeet to T.J. and homeschooling mom to 5 little blessings. Memoirs Of A Good Thing is a ministry that is cultivating encouragement, support, and faith through the testimonies of women! Read more about my journey and the Memoirs of a Good Thing ministry here!